What's so big about small talk?

July 14, 2022

What's so big about small talk?

Small talk is the appetizer of any relationship

It takes some thought to get to the main course

Talking rule is, no more than 4 to 5 minutes about any topic, and then I have to throw the conversation ball back your way

We would eliminate monopolizers forever if we would all take that rule in hand

That means it's not a competition

We think we're not topping each other but we're matching, when you tell me you have a son and a daughter, well I have a son and a daughter too and I start babbling about my son and daughter



When it is your turn, what are the questions you should never ask?

Don't say to the married couple across the table "so, do you have any kids? When are you gonna have kids?" How about this one, "when are you gonna make me a grandmother?" What kind of-- what, stop it!"

The key : don't make assumptions.

if you don't know about someone's marital status, or boyfriend-girlfriend status,

"what's been going on in your life since the last time I saw you?" or "bring me up to date about your faimily", instead of saying "how's your wife?" What if his wife left him?

Be careful asking how work is going unless you know the person still has the same job

A better question to ask anybody you don't know well is "what's been going on with work since the last time I saw you?"

Have a good conversation!!

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